Be No Ego
Posted in Advice, Love Your People | 16 Comments
ego: noun: 1. the self 2. an inflated sense of self-significance
Imagine a world without ego. No…
- Toes to step on
- Feelings to hurt
- Fair shares to grab
- Territory to defend
- Fault to allocate
- Back to watch
- Last words to get
- Ideas to hold back
- Embarrassment to bear
- Battles to win
- Knowledge to prove
- Entitlement to have
- Encouragement to withhold
- Credit to seek
- Grudges to hold
- Jealousy to feel
- Revenge to take
- Hidden meanings to construe
Just pure care.
To be no ego…
- Be humble. Understand you are a (small) part of the world. Service and patience should be your top priorities.
- Be teachable. Focus on what you can learn, rather than what you know. Remember that almost everything you learn comes from the work of someone else.
- Listen more. Make every effort to truly understand what others are saying (beyond just words). Allow a gap of silence before responding. Ask question (and listen, again).
- Appreciate people. Enjoy others’ contributions. Don’t squelch ideas or defend territory. Encourage more.
- Relax. Let go of the need to be right or win every time.
Nothing complex. So what do you say? You up for it?
Speak no ego. Be no ego.™
(let’s make the world a better place)
Get the Be No Ego pocket card.
__________
Connect with Sam (guy behind this stuff)…
Facebook | LinkedIn | Google+ | Twitter
Copyright © 2010 by Give More Media Inc. This was written by Sam Parker. If you’d like to tell people about it somewhere (e.g., blog, newsletter, Facebook, social media), please reference Sam Parker of GiveMore.com as the author and link directly to the article. Excerpts are great but please don’t publish the article in its entirety without advanced written permission (email Sam using the address at the bottom of this page).
LOVE THIS POST?
Join more than 20,000 subscribers (for free) and get this stuff by email. (You'll love it.)
Hi Sam,
Your messages are so inspiring! I wish I could work in your enviorment. What a blessing that woudl be!! If everyone could get past this hurdle of self image protection and focusing who gets credit for what and put that energy into their work, clients and colleagues, I would be thrilled!!
I send your messages out each week and try to spread the knowledge, it seems there will always be those who resist the challenge or feel this does not apply but that is OK,
With that said I will not stop trying until I am satisfied with the end result. Keep up the motivation and I will keep on forwarding it!!
Such a great reminder and grounding way to start my day! Thank you.
[...] we must be willing to stop identifying ourselves as bodies to ultimately succeed. As we are going through our everyday experiences the ego is always the first one to speak in respect…then the space will be left free for the right mind to give its interpretation of the situation. [...]
Thanks for the great article on ego. I have realised to have no ego is about doing what a truly desire, but equally importantly ,respecting the rights of others to do the same………….especially when they are different to mine!
Cheers
Warren
As I read the comments I see very large egos speaking through a lot of people. Ego must often stand defend its presents in the lives of individuals. The thoughts were excellent…thank you for this lesson.
I was a hermit, many many years. I forgot social dealing, I forgot the ego and its role in interpersonal dealings, because I lost my ego I am ineffective with the competition orientation of social dealings in america. Losing my ego has completely socially crippled me and I live in isolation…so to those who dream about losing your ego, I’ll say that to lose it is to lose what is normal in social interaction. If you like seclusion and lonliness, losing your ego is the best way to get there…
I find it a bit ironic that the “Speak no ego. Be no ego.” phrase is tradmarked. What about the “no territory to defend” ideal?
I did enjoy the post, though, and the 5 keys to no ego. Definitely some worthwhile and positive goals to reach for.
I appreciate this concept. I have a former boss who believes that to show gratitude or appreciation is a sign of submission rather than appreciation, that to listen to others, to understand the other part of the story is again submission, that no one is teachable, that she must be right every time no matter what cost, and that humility is shown only in church or to loved ones. I was horribly demeaned, never taught anything even thought I wished to learn, I was never told I did anything correct, never thanked for extra effort or ever listened to when I had an idea.
Ego gives us a certain sense of self confidence to be a contributing member of a team. But when ego goes from being the sense of self to the overblown sense of self-worth and your entire existence becomes focused on living a rather hate-filled life, then there is a huge problem.
Instead of focusing on the term ego, just focus on the actions of being the best, most humane human we can be. The golden is rule is a great way to live, and to help others achieve.
Although well-intended, the accomplishment of these principles is only possible WITH ego. Political correctness and the watering down of truth has lead to the false impression that “service to others” is the highest of ideals and is to be championed above all. This misconception unfortunately leads directly to each problem this website wishes to solve. False pride would be a better concept to attack; ego is not only essential but the key driver in any prosperous nation. Despite the positive premise I assume the owner of this website is operating from, lack of ego leads to conforment rather than individuality, belief in entitlements instead of responsibility and slavery instead of liberty. Each individual needs to be taught that the most productive way they can aid the world is to be in control of and able to rely on themselves. At that point, helping others is possible. The inability to grasp the falacy of this of “no ego” is understandable from the view that we would all like a more peaceful, coherent world. But the end game of this concept, if carried out to its fullest extent would not be Utpoia. Rather, it would be a pure socialistic environment where the Free Will of humankind that was bestowed upon every man, woman and child by God would be replaced with a mindless mass of sheep trying to live against the true nature of humankind. The overall mindset of “no-ego” is little more than a cover that lets one believe helping another can somehow overcome the unwillingness of an individual to face his or her own issues. Helping others is a worthwhile and noble cause, but is ultimately done because of ego, no in spite of ego. The best thing one human can be to another is not an aid, but rather an example. Let your ego shine.
what an excellent thought. Indeed the world will be a better place to live in if everyone knows and uses this thought in his/her life. The problem is that men are naturally selfish and are inclined to satisfying theirs self interest or desires first before that of other people around them. However, we should try, no matter the cost, to be no ego at least to create a more coherent world.
what an excellent thought. Indeed the world will be a better place to live in if everyone knows and uses this thought in his/her life. The problem is that men are naturally selfish and are inclined to satisfying theirs self interest desires first before that of other people around them. However, we should try no matter the cost, to be no ego at least to create a more coherent world.
[...] Here’s how. [...]
A bed to rest peacefully in.
Thank you for the warm and wonderful thoughts, but maybe this is what waits for us in the afterlife. But, since we’re here, we have to deal with people. Their biases, prejudices, religions, experience with idiots, love of their own, homes to live in, cars to drive, jobs to do. I wish we could all live by your credo. I truly do. I embrace it. I really don’t do much but smile at strangers and give to charity, but I DO have to find a way to care for my husband and myself.
Wow, just think how much we could accomplish is a normal workday if we followed this idea a little more! A great reminder that we all share in the success (and failure) of each other. Love your people and they’ll love to learn.
Nice thoughts, Sam, and I truly feel your message; but actually, with no ego, there would be no God. Check him out and understand how we are made. A deep understanding of that about the people with which we are dealing is the basis of social, business, and national success. Great negotiators and sales people get this wisdom.
Keep smovin’
Excellent thoughts, Sam. I just watched The Peaceful Warrior AGAIN, and this so resonates with me.
Thanks!!
Rosey Dow
http://LetsGetRealMarketing.com